How to reach me

I write in English because I love the idea of reaching out in the world and I don’t want to create language boundaries. English is the universal language, that’s why I chose to use it. My mother tongue is German though.

For me it was a turning point when I found a friend online, I could write to in person, who suffered the same loss, who experienced the same I did and who understood without explanation. I didn’t feel so alien anymore.

If you want to contact me, if you have any inspiration, any questions, any comment you don’t want to post online, I am happy to hear from you.

blanknewpage (at) gmail dot com

 

Lilly

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